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Do your fights sound something like this?
Imagine this: Taylor gets home from a long day at work. The kitchen sink is full of dishes and the trash hasn't been taken out. Alex is sitting at the desk, seemingly working on the computer.
Taylor: “You didn’t do the dishes like I asked!”
Alex: “I didn’t promise I’d do the dishes, I said I’d do them if I had time, which I didn’t. My work day was slammed!”
Taylor: “Ugh, you never get to anything I ask. I can’t make dinner for us with a sink full of dishes!”
Alex: “That’s not even true, I do tons of stuff for you all the time, you’re just never satisfied.”
Taylor: “Never mind, I’ll just do the dishes. I can’t talk to you about anything anyway.”
Sound familiar? This is one common example of the negative communication cycle - the loop of doom! Around and around it goes - where it stops, nobody knows.
Here’s how couple’s therapy helps. The first four sessions are an assessment to help you:
Understand the exact steps in the negative cycle you get stuck in
Learn how to create emotional safety for each other
Really learn how to talk about what’s going on - without falling into the same old fight.
Figure out the strengths and weaknesses in the foundation of your relationship.
By the fourth session, we’ll have a tailored plan to increase the appreciation, fondness, and admiration for one another and improve communication.
The type of couple’s therapy I do is based in 40 years of sociological research. The interventions created from that research are focused on healthy communication skills, managing conflict, and building a culture of appreciation and fondness between you that will increase your emotional (and physical!) intimacy.
Queer, poly, kink affirmative.
Do you know your negative communication style?
Watch this 2 minute video and identify it for yourself! Do you tend to resort to criticism, contempt, defensiveness, or stonewalling?